Sunday, June 8, 2008

The Silence of God

Just because God is SILENT does not mean He is ABSENT.
- Dwight Mason
I know now, Lord, why you utter no answer. You are yourself the answer. Before your face questions die away. What other answer would suffice?
- C.S. Lewis
Don’t doubt in the dark what God told you in the light.
- V. Raymond Edman
Never let anything so fill you with sorrow as to make you forget the joy of the risen Christ.
- Mother Teresa
Faith is believing in advance what can only be understood in reverse.
- Chuck Swindoll
Has this world been so kind to you that you should leave with regret? There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.
- C.S. Lewis

The Bend in the Road

Sometimes we come to life’s crossroads and we view what we think is the end

But God has a much wider vision and He knows it is only a bend.

The road will go on and get smoother and after we’ve stopped to rest,

The path lies hidden beyond us is often the path that is best.

So rest and relax and grow stronger, let go and let God share your load

And have faith in a brighter tomorrow, you’ve just come to a bend in the road.
- Helen Steiner Rice

Trust His Heart

God is too good to be unkind.
He is too wise to be confused.
If I cannot trace His hand,
I can always trust His heart.
- Charles H. Spurgeon

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Dreams

Blessed are those whose dreams are shaped
by their hopes…
not by
their hurts!
- Robert H. Schuller

I Believe

I believe in the sun,
even when it does not shine.

I believe in love,
even when it is not shown.

I believe in God,
even when He is silent.
- This verse was scratched into a basement wall
by the one of the victims of the Holocaust

Promises

So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3

Prayer for Serenity

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Mastering the Loss

The loss is mastered not by forgetting the past or holding onto it, but by abstracting from it the essential meaning of the person and recreating it to fit a whole new life which must go on without the loved one.

- Bertha Simos

Why Participate in a Grief Group?

“I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, to be understood and touched by them.

The greatest gift I can give is to see, to hear, to understand, and to touch another [griever].
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When this is done I feel a contact has been made.”
-Virginia Satir

The Prayer of Betty Stam

Lord,

I give up my own purposes and plans,
all my own desires, hopes and ambitions,
and I accept Thy will for my life.

I give myself, my life, my all,
utterly to Thee, to be Thine forever.

I hand over to Thy keeping all my friendships. All the people whom I love are to take second place in my heart.

Fill me and seal me with Thy Holy Spirit.
Work out Thy whole will in my life, at any cost, now and forever. To me to live is Christ.

Amen!
- The Prayer of Betty Stam
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Betty Stam dedicated her life to Christ with this prayer in 1925. Betty and her husband John calmly and bravely laid down their lives for Christ nine years later, martyred by the Chinese communists.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Keep Your Fork

There was a woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things “in order,” she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. The woman also requested to be buried with her favorite Bible.

Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. “There's one more thing,” she said excitedly. “What's that?” came the pastor's reply.

“This is very important.” The woman continued, “I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.” The pastor stood looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say.

“That surprises you, doesn't it?” the woman asked. “Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request,” said the pastor. The woman explained. “In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, ‘Keep your fork.’ It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming . . . like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance.”

“So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder ‘What's with the fork?’ Then I want you to tell them: “Keep your fork. The best is yet to come.’” The pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the woman had a better grasp on life than he did. She knew that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the woman's casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing and her favorite Bible and the fork in her right hand. Over and over the pastor heard the question, “What's with the fork?” And, over and over he just smiled. During his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people that he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them they probably wouldn't stop thinking about it either. He was right.

So the next time you reach for your fork, let it remind you oh so gently, that the best is yet to come . . .
- Roger William Thomas

Telling Yourself the Truth

The following statements can be read, written, repeated, and focused upon in times of confusion, alienation, and distress. It may be helpful to write out the statements that are most meaningful to you and carry the statements with you. The statements can be reviewed many times per day, providing a reminder of what is real.

  • I won’t always feel this way.
  • Joy will return someday.
  • Life is a mix of joy and sorrow.
  • Emotional pain hurts, but that doesn’t mean it is harmful.
  • Trouble and difficulties are a part of life.
  • God is greater than any problem you are facing.
  • Life is difficult, but God is good.
  • Sometimes life doesn’t seem fair.
  • God knows me and loves me no matter what!
  • Jesus knows how it feels to suffer — He also suffered.
  • It’s okay to be angry when something is wrong.
  • It’s okay to cry — Jesus did.
  • It’s good to acknowledge our needs when we have them.
  • It’s okay to be scared — God is with me.
  • God is with me even when I don’t feel it.
  • God loves me no matter what I feel.
  • God will give me strength when I am weak.
  • It’s okay to say “no.”
  • The truth is always my friend, even when it is painful.
  • I can make it through my pain — God will be with me.
  • It’s okay to speak the truth in love.

- adapted from Mel Lawrenz & Daniel Green, Life After Grief, 137-138